HUURUL AYN: THE FIGHT IS ON. WHO BECOMES QUEEN

Bismil Laahir Rahmaanir Raheem

Assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barkaatuhu dear brothers and sisters. I pray that you are in the most desired state of health, wealth and faith. If you are not, then it is my prayer that Allah azza wa jal grants you those and many more in complete ease. Aameen Yaa Wahhaab Yaa Allah. 

Last week I wrote an article titled, 'Today: I Saw Something that I Have Always Wanted to See.' Did you read it? If you haven't, then please do and let me know what you think. Smiles.

I am writing on, as the title suggests, something that both Muslim men and women are passionate about - Huurul Ayn. What makes men passionate about them?

Allah azza wa jal says in a number of places in the Qur'an that among the rewards that Muslim men stand to get in the Hereafter, provided they lived excellent lives, were 'Huurul Ayn'. This refers to some beautiful class of women in Jannah. Among their many descriptions are:

1. Large and wide beautiful eyes.

2. They are like pearls.

3. They are unblemished.

4. They are white.

5. They are young etc.

Now, these Muslim men are promised more than one of these women in Paradise and that is what their craze is about. Smiles. Of course, if I were a man, I will stick to the rules for the end benefit even if it were just these women alone was worth it. So, the next time you see the men quoting aayaat and ahaadith on this subject again and again, know that their excitement over the whole issue is valid - they are crazy about their Huurul Ayn. Heheheeee.

Now, why are the Muslim women crazy about these Huurul Ayn? Or wait! I put the question wrong. Rather, why are the Muslim women going crazy about Huurul Ayn? Smiles! Oh yes! Lots of our Muslim ladies are going crazy over this whole Huurul Ayn saga. Do they like them? No! Are they jealous of them? Yes! Personally, they are an aspect of Jannah that I don't think about. But of course, what business do I have with them? I am a woman any way. Or may be, ignoring them and pretending they don't exist is a coping strategy. Keep smiling.

Let me tell you a story. Once an Islamic scholar was preaching about the status of the good wife in Jannah. He was doing so to egg all ladies to strive to be good wives to their husbands. He mentioned that if a man is pleased with his wife and she dies while his wife, she will become the queen of his 'Huurul Ayn' in Jannah.

Mostly, this concept serves as a push for a lot of Muslim women to be good wives. They strive to be good wives in order to become Queens. Heheheeee. They cannot withstand some Jannah ladies who haven't had the bitter and sweet taste of marriage and who don't know their husbands from nowhere outwitting them at the 'Queenship' position. Keep smiling.

But let me continue the story, the above was an interlude. There was a woman who was listening to this man keenly and she thought about what he said deeply then she said;

'Indeed, the situation of we women is pathetic. Even in Jannah, they are going to give us rivals.'

Now! This is interesting huh. The motivating aspect of the scholar's talk didn't get to her. She rather thought beyond what most people will usually think and identified a problem or a threat or a disadvantage in the whole set up. Anyway, let's hold this here.

I actually planned telling you two stories but they have turned out to be three. The above was not one of them but it has now become the first. So, let me tell you the second story. Once I was walking with two Muslim ladies or no, let me tell you the third story instead. Don't worry, I will tell you this one later.

I was telling a friend, lady, about how I was going to write about the third story I will be telling you about and she said something that got me laughing and pondering at the same time. What did she say?

Her story...

She is married as a third wife. She is a good Muslim lady who wants to do her best at being a good wife to her husband. She is religious too. Mostly, she tries to keep her husband on his toes with Allah azza wa jal. One day he told her about the very first woman he married. That was ten years ago. Their marriage had lasted only a year because she died through the process of child delivery. The child is well and good. He told her how religious that wife was and how much she also tried to keep him doing things that Allah azza wa jal loves. He added that this new wife reminded him of his first wife a lot.

What do you think will be going through this lady's mind? Was she happy to hear about this wonderful woman whose husband speaks so highly of her a decade after she has left this life? Was she glad that her husband speaks so excellently of her who is a new bride? Well, this lady thought completely differently. She wondered about how their (husband, dead wife and her) situation is going to be like in Jannah where they all hope to be. She knew very well about what will make a wife qualify as the queen of her husband's Huurul Ayn. She wondered,

'So, all things being equal, between she and the dead wife, who will become Queen?'

I laughed when she said this. Seemed to me like a competition between the dead and the living. The facial expression with which she said it alone was something else. But all things aside, she had a genuine concern and I wish someone could answer her question. Is it that even with the Queenship, some are going to be Queens over Queens? May be we should ask our scholars. Do share with me your thoughts on this in shaa Allah.

Now, to my last story. I mentioned earlier that some Muslim women are going crazy about this Huurul Ayn something, right? Now look at this.

I was walking with two Muslim ladies. We spoke about a lot of things mostly concerning women and more especially, Muslim women. We spoke about marriage, worship and Jannah. Then we began day dreaming about how chilling Jannah is going to be in shaa Allah. Then each one of us began listing the things she will request from Allah azza wa jal. Then the topic of Huurul Ayn came up. 

One of the ladies said that left to her, she doesn't even want to be married in Jannah. She just wants to have fun and go here and there and do this and that. Then the most interesting thing came up. As we went on and on about Huurul Ayn, this lady asked:

'But if Allah said we will get all that we wish for, can't we get our own set of Huurul Ayn?'

Now, don't laugh. She was serious about it. She wondered about so many things and thought that if she could have her own Huurul Ayn, then may be there will be no need for her to worry about her many rivals nor who becomes Queen.

Don't just condemn or hail. Let us think together and let me in on what you think. Welcome to the world of women, Muslim women. Remember to strive hard towards building your relationship with Allah azza wa jal and becoming an extremely beautiful soul. May Allah subhaanahu wa ta aalaa continue to ease all your affairs and raise your rank both in this Dunya and the Akhira. May the peace, mercy and blessings of Allah azza wa jal be upon the noblest of humans, Prophet Muhammad and upon his family and his companions. And oh! Do remember me in your dua always. Jazaakumullaahu khairan.

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TODAY: I Saw What I Have Always Wanted To See

Bismil Laahir Rahmaanir Raheem

Assalaamu alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barkaatuhu my dear brothers and sisters. I pray you are all wallowing in seas of blessings upon blessings. For those going through one struggle or the other, may Allah azza wa jal completely make easy and bearable all your struggles.

I felt wonderful today as I walked passed a certain place. I will tell you about that place in a bit but before that let me tell you a story. Is it even a story? Smiles.

I had my Junior High School education at a Seventh Day Adventist School, McNeilus SDA. From Junior High School One to Three, we never wore ear rings and any kind of jewellery. That is not where my interest is though. On every Friday, we closed very early just like most Islamic schools do.  They close school early so that they could prepare to observe their Sabbath the next day.

We had a very big church in the school where they worship on Saturdays. One key thing you see on Fridays after we close is the church members trooping into the school, most of them men. Some come in their cars and others on foot. They pack their cars at the parking lot and then, what do they do? They clean the whole school and then the church. 

It was very common to see men sweeping the compound, collecting trash and doing all other kinds of cleaning in the school on these days. My father had rented one of his shops to an SDA man and this man, who was a family man and rich, was one of the people you will most often see cleaning up the school and the church to prepare it for their worship the next day.

It was surprising also that most of the people you will see cleaning on these days were men. The females were a handful. Note that I said men and not boys.

Now, that is the end of the story. Smiles. What at all am I driving at? Well, let me tell you another story. 

I live next to a huge Masjid, it is just a not so nice big drain that separates the Masjid and I. Smiles. Well, the Minister for Zongo and Inner City Development promised to fix it. Let's hope he does. Back to what I was saying. This big beautiful Masjid gets cleaned on Fridays too, but early in the morning instead because of Jummua. Who cleans the Masjid? Volunteers. Which volunteers? Women. Yes, it is the women who live in the vicinity of the Masjid who clean it up.

That is very admirable of them and may Allah azza wa jal accept from them their kind gesture to His House. Honestly, I wish I could be joining them do the cleaning but... There is always a but.

That is the end of this story also. Now, don't start contrasting the cleaning of the church with the cleaning of the Masjid just yet. Let me tell you the part two of story number two. 

Once in a while, these women cleaners of the Masjid seem to be nowhere to be found on these Fridays when their services were greatly needed. When such incidences happen, some of the leaders of the Masjid resort to the microphone to call unto the women in the vicinity to come and do the cleaning due to the enormous reward there is to be attained with such an act. They quote aayaat and ahaadith to boost the women to leave off all that they are attending to in their homes to come to clean the Masjid and they always succeed.

These happenings always send me to my world of many thoughts on what should have been and what shouldn't have been. I had just recently come to a conclusion on my thoughts on such matters when I saw an interesting scene as I walked passed the Masjid this morning. Now, you know the place, right? It was the Masjid. 

You can easily guess why I was so interested in the scene I saw. Let me give you a view of it. The Masjid was cleaned and chairs neatly arranged in style. There was a lot of cleaning and organising going on. The beautiful part of the whole thing is that it was men who were doing all of these things. Men! Both young and elderly. I was impressed for sure. The sad thing however is that it was not a Friday and there was not going to be Jummua. It was someone's funeral ceremony.

The question is; 

'If these men could clean and organise this nicely for a funeral, why can't they do same on Fridays too?'

Yes, on Friday mornings as women busily cleaned the Masjid from after Fajr till morning, most of the men in the vicinity either went back to sleep or sat around chatting their time away. But these women mostly have a pile of other works at home they could have been taking care of with that time. 

Back to the church, we all know how these men do not see it as a big deal doing part of the chores at home together with their wives and then they are still able to make time to go and clean up their place of worship. Most of our men on the other hand will leave all household chores to their wives and then even on Friday when they could have at least cleaned their House of worship, they still hold the mentality that it is the work of the women folk.

One day, I was in the office at school when two Junior High School two learners came to invite me to something they were going to do in their class. They said it was going to be in thirty minutes time. I probed them severally for them to tell me what it was but they didn't. So I told them to come get me when they were about to start. They did. Guess what they were going to do? Debate! And the topic? 

'Should boys also do house chores?'

Interesting huh! It seemed, from the way the opponents were almost getting at each other's throat, that they've been arguing about this particular issue for so long. It was an enjoyable event and in the end I concluded that:

'Our girls believe we have been unfair to them in the way we bring our boys up as kings and they, their maids.'

Now, just think deeply about the scenarios above and if you are a man, take a decision for yourself as to whether your help is a necessity or not. If you are a woman, someday, by the permission of Allah azza wa jal, your son is going to be someone's husband and his mentality towards men's involvement in house chores will be shaped by mostly how you and your husband bring him up. It is better to let him know that doing house chores does not and will never make him less of a man. It will rather make him more beloved to his wife and children in future because perhaps most women might not say it but house chores drain them to bits.

Well, let us ponder together. I am completely grateful to you for making time to read it all. May Allah subhaanahu wa ta aalaa continue to put abundant baraka in your life and in all your endeavours. Don't forget me in your dua. Smiles. May the peace, blessings and mercy of Allah azza wa jal be upon the coolness of our eyes, the Messenger of Allah, Muhammad and upon his household and his companions. Thank you and jazaakumullaahu khairan.

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